Wow. A lot to digest. I guess my only suggestion is to try to avoid another R talk for a while. Let this one sink in a bit. Some good stuff there and it seems she has an internal struggle going on like my wife did a couple of months ago. A lot of your sitch reminds me of mine.
Keep up the good work though.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018