on the one hand, i too am a girly, girl... i love pretty things, the color pale pink, painted toes, blush lip gloss... on the other hand, i can hang with the guys... my best friend is male, and i tend to get along with males... my female friends are my sisters... i am a sports fanatic, whisky and tequila shooter, Scotch sipper... no fruity mixed drinks for me... i taught my sons how to throw a spiral with a football, how to bat, and how to catch fly balls, how to play pool... i speak proper English but can take on the vocabulary of a drunken sailor in a split second... on my son's 21st birthday last year, he and i smoked cigars and drank bourbon (something i had promised him since he was about 10)...
artista,
The paragraph above is an excerpt of a message that you posted on hoosjim's thread (the boldface is mine). It struck a chord with me because my XW had a guy best friend (her BFF) during the latter years of our marriage. My XW assured me that a husband ranks above a BFF and that I shouldn't be worried. That didn't turn out well.
Given your history, I was surprised to see that you have a best friend that's a guy. It seems to me that you, being married, having a guy best friend would be similar to a "reformed" alcoholic hanging out in a liquor store. The end result seems inevitable.
Am I wrong? Is your husband okay with you having a guy as a best friend?
good point, doodler... my best friend has been my friend since 1971... i was 6 and he was 8 when my brother married his sister... so he is my brother's brother-in-law and his sister is my sister-in-law... he is family, really... we went to the same high school and told everybody we were cousins... he knows the history of my family since he has been around and involved in our lives all these decades... he knows all the ins and outs as if he were a sibling... he is friends with my H, and they have conversations between themselves--that i am not a part of... my sons know him as Uncle... if it were anybody else, any other male, it would not fly... i would say that our relationship is akin to that of Will and Grace (the sitcom)...
