Ive been cut off from my WW for 3 months now Newly, honestly i wouldn't focus so much on what your behavior is causing in her, but rather what positive changes your behavior is causing for yourself. Remember Cadets first words. NO EXPECTATIONS. I still struggle greatly with NC, and i can even HAVE contact if i wanted it, but its been a blessing in disguise. It gave me the time i needed to learn all about DB techniques. Before NC i was literally doing everything wrong, pleading, begging, pursuing, challenging questions about OM, making demands and pleas about our marriage, our family, our son.
Keep up being positive, be polite and available but dont be a doormat. Stand up for your boundaries, and be the best version of yourself you can be. If thats not what she wants to come home to, you cant control that.
I mean it when i say i still really struggle with this, i have SO MANY QUESTIONS, SO MANY EXPLANATIONS I WANT. Ive had zero closure, zero info. I had OM thrown in my face and then i was left in the dark, now for months. So believe me i get how hard it is, ive slipped up and tried to contact her, with no results. Im not doing that anymore. She is living her life, and it IS GOING to backfire in her face, could be in a week or it could be in 5 years, i dont know. What i do know is it will happen, and when it does im going to be the best version of myself i can be and we'll see how the dust settles. Bank on nothing but your own perseverance.
