Hanging On (Saying ILY Pt. 2)

[OrangeK]

Then you're doing great in my opinion. I haven't seen or spoken with my wife in 3 months so I haven't had the opportunity to test my resolve at all. As far as her belongings are concerned I would Supply a deadline to have them moved if she's not going to be living in the marital house. I made a lot of wrong moves before finding these resources. My wife left in October and I didn't move out of our apartment until December and when I did I put most of her stuff in my storage unit because she wasn't around to help move out even though she knew it was happening. I guess my point is that it seems like they will literally drag their feet and make you do everything from moving their belongings paying to store them to filing divorce. Just don't do any of it. Set boundaries and clearly State your expectations in regard to adult responsibilities such as taking care of their belongings or paying for things. Same thing with the lock, I threatened to take my wife's key to our apartment away numerous times before I finally had the backbone to do it. looking back I know this is something that had an effect because of the way she reacted the first time I asked for the key back she threatened to come and take all of her stuff because I was still begging her to move back in at that point. she left that's not her home anymore she should have no expectations about access to the home or your finances. As always no need to be mean, stand your ground and be polite.