W left her phone in the bathroom this morning when she went downstairs. I couldn't resist, she didn't even change her password.
Took me 10 seconds to find all that I needed to know. Affair confirmed. They have had physical contact - kissing, minimum. Could be more, don't know, don't care. This means she cheated in the week before BD. That part stings. But I was prepared for this, I'm not an idiot. Glad to have seen confirmed evidence with my own eyes, without any more than necessary to add to the pain.
Don't think it changes anything for me, DB-wise, right? If anything, it will be easier to stand my ground and not accommodate her at all anymore. Now I can truly spend the time thinking if this is something I can get past and if I even want her back.
Sorry man, but you already knew this was probably the case. As others have said, it changes nothing. Other than if it crossed a boundary for you maybe you are the one that can't move forward with R now. If you are okay with what she has done and still what to work towards R, then yes, you just keep moving on.
Likely this A will end and relatively soon. She is 26 and he is 19? Even without her being married that would be doomed to fail. Unless he is one mature 19 year-old. I dated a 19 year-old before I met my wife. I was 27 at the time. While it was fun for a while, it got old quick. She was still into high school drama crap that I had left behind years before. We were both in such different places in our lives. She was very attractive, but became less so as her 19 year-old lifestyle began to wear on me. By time we broke up I didn't even want to be her friend anymore. I was just at such a different place in my life.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
