Tonight she came into the bedroom to change and said, "how about I sleep in the bed tonight?" Note that I have been sleeping in the bed for two weeks now since the very first couple nights after BD. She referred back to our original arrangement of switching off and that it hasn't been happening. I said, "You're right, but I thought about it, and since you're the one that doesn't want to sleep in the bed, I think it makes sense that you be the one to choose somewhere else to sleep." She said okay, "No, it's fine, you said your words. Have your throne, your majesty." And she left. She wasn't mad per se; more like accepting that I was probably right but she's not too happy about it. I hope I did the right thing here?
Excellent work here. Seriously, this is perfect. She is leaving the M. She left the MB. She should be the one to sleep elsewhere.
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Last note, and I just wonder if anyone else has encountered this. My dog (I say mine because he was mine originally as opposed to the other two) has been totally screwed up by our separation. He is an anxious, extremely people-oriented dog to begin with (German Shepherd/Golden Retriever mix). But now I don't even know what to do with him. He has become neurotic about staying on the stairs/near the bedrooms. We can't get him to go outside to go to the bathroom once it's dark and he has been peeing in the house. He can't handle the fact that we don't sleep in the same room. He cries all night, opens doors trying to go in between and refuses to leave my W's room until she comes out with him and locks him back in with me. At bedtime, he goes in there and is visibly devastated when she tells him to go and he realizes she isn't coming. Even she acknowledges it's the saddest thing ever. I can't even imagine if we had kids. My heart goes out to all you guys in that situation.
Stop talking to her about this. If she brings it up again I'd say something like "Yeah, he'll get used to it eventually." and then drop it. She is probably getting a little kick out of the fact that the dog's behavior concerns you. Just deal with it and act to her like it is no big deal.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
