This morning I woke up to a message from a mutual friend of ours that said "How you been holding up?"

I have to admit I was surprised and disappointed as I have been wondering if my W has been telling people. It makes it feel more "real" to know she has.

I would love to talk to this friend, but I sense that I should just say "I'm doing fine, thanks for checking in." I don't think it's a malicious spy attack, but I am very aware that I have no guarantee that anything I say won't get back to my W. I trust the friend, but let's be honest, people like to talk. Am I right to think this way or can I have a bit more candid conversation?

M: 26 W: 26
M: 1.5 T: 3
No kids
BD: 31 March 2018

W's affair began: 23 March 2018
Affair confirmed: 18 April 2018
Confrontation/claims she ended A: 14 May 2018
Ended in-house separation: July 2018