I have spoken to L's, and because I am in a no fault state, H does not get penalized for having an affair. For those that are thinking of D, cost can go up to $20,000 and D is still not done. I am the bread winner, so financially, I will loose a LOT, big time if Judges get their way. H agreed that if we end up in D, he will not take anything, he does recognize that I alone worked hard on what we have today. For that I appreciate him and can see a glimmer of what used to be my honorable husband. But why would I give this OW/prostitute a free pass on a green card?
He is keeping in line, trying not to upset me in any way. I have told him that our 18th anniversary is coming soon. Including my birthday. I told him that if he is only going to hurt me with disregard to those occasions, I would rather that he leave. He did not leave. What used to be more than 8 hours of him talking on FB with this OW on a daily basis becomes almost maybe none. This is why I hated FB so much! I used to feel like I was the OW, begging for his time & attention. Now the situation has changed to my advantaged. It is true, the experience will make you strong. I know what I went true is painful but every time I reached out to those painful feelings, I cannot grasp them anymore. I know there is hope, there is a bright future. How I wish I have a magic ball to see what's beyond. I missed my old self, but I liked my new me. More mature, more understanding, and yes, I'm still a fighter and I will always be.
