No affair(?), no feelings...is there hope? Part II

[sandi2]

I looked at the pictures and said it looks nice. Now I don't think she will actually buy it and I certainly won't bring it up again, but I am confused by this behavior.

Expect the odd, unusual, abnormal, and crazy behavior in her......and you won't be confused. Place absolutely no expectations in what she says or how she acts with you.

Today she also declared she was "taking her hour".

A lot of people need an hour to unwind after they get home from working all day, especially if they have stressful jobs. When I was a SAHM, I would hit my H with all my saved up words as soon as he walked in the door. I know how it can feel a bit rude and insulting, but some people can't handle all our "chatter". Mark it down to the differences in your psychological make up, and give her the hour. It's better than rolling her eyes or covering her ears when you talk.

Tonight she came into the bedroom to change and said, "how about I sleep in the bed tonight?" Note that I have been sleeping in the bed for two weeks now since the very first couple nights after BD. She referred back to our original arrangement of switching off and that it hasn't been happening. I said, "You're right, but I thought about it, and since you're the one that doesn't want to sleep in the bed, I think it makes sense that you be the one to choose somewhere else to sleep." She said okay, "No, it's fine, you said your words. Have your throne, your majesty." And she left. She wasn't mad per se; more like accepting that I was probably right but she's not too happy about it. I hope I did the right thing here?

Was she saying "it's fine your majesty" or you? If it was her, then don't worry about her not being happy about it, you handled it well.

Last note, and I just wonder if anyone else has encountered this. My dog (I say mine because he was mine originally as opposed to the other two) has been totally screwed up by our separation. He is an anxious, extremely people-oriented dog to begin with (German Shepherd/Golden Retriever mix). But now I don't even know what to do with him. He has become neurotic about staying on the stairs/near the bedrooms. We can't get him to go outside to go to the bathroom once it's dark and he has been peeing in the house. He can't handle the fact that we don't sleep in the same room. He cries all night, opens doors trying to go in between and refuses to leave my W's room until she comes out with him and locks him back in with me. At bedtime, he goes in there and is visibly devastated when she tells him to go and he realizes she isn't coming. Even she acknowledges it's the saddest thing ever. I can't even imagine if we had kids. My heart goes out to all you guys in that situation.

Dogs are very sensitive when there is something wrong the house. The local vet might give you some advice over the phone, IDK. If there is a trainer, or something like adog whisperer (whatever they are called), maybe you could contact them. If not, there's always Google. Does your W seem concerned about the dog?