I feel like you may have missed Ginger's point. I think she was saying that you may need to sacrifice something you enjoy doing (going to local bars where you know a lot of people) to keep you're wife away from an environment that is not healthy to a solid MR. I refer to local bars like you describe as a "Hookup House", and your W seems susceptible to advances of the males that attend these bars and have gotten good at knowing what to say to hook a girl quickly.
Thank you coconut for putting it so succinctly. This is exactly my point I was trying to drive home. You need to change your scenery for a while. Your M is in too vulnerable of a spot for this kind of atmosphere at this time. You sound like you are enjoying a place where you don't know anyone. It sounded like a good, drama free night. Stick to those for now. It's a small sacrifice for the sake of your M.
