No affair(?), no feelings...is there hope? Part II

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Update/random thoughts and notes for the day:

I finally received DR in the mail! Read through about half of it last night; it didn't disappoint. Will keep reading tonight.

W told me today she "found me a road bike". Crazy good deal. I told her thanks, but I don't think I have the money to drop on that right now (technically, our money is shared; I was just politely deflecting). She says, "I do". I looked at the pictures and said it looks nice. Now I don't think she will actually buy it and I certainly won't bring it up again, but I am confused by this behavior.

Today she also declared she was "taking her hour". This is something she used to do when she came home from work because, after being by myself most of the day, I would often inundate her with talking as soon as she walked in the door. Of course, she was tired and just wanted to relax and this was a source of conflict. So, we decided that after she comes home she gets an hour to herself to nap, read, watch TV, whatever, before we would have any long discussions or tackle tasks etc. I thought it was a bit odd for her to casually announce this, as she gets unlimited hours to herself these days.

Tonight she came into the bedroom to change and said, "how about I sleep in the bed tonight?" Note that I have been sleeping in the bed for two weeks now since the very first couple nights after BD. She referred back to our original arrangement of switching off and that it hasn't been happening. I said, "You're right, but I thought about it, and since you're the one that doesn't want to sleep in the bed, I think it makes sense that you be the one to choose somewhere else to sleep." She said okay, "No, it's fine, you said your words. Have your throne, your majesty." And she left. She wasn't mad per se; more like accepting that I was probably right but she's not too happy about it. I hope I did the right thing here?

Last note, and I just wonder if anyone else has encountered this. My dog (I say mine because he was mine originally as opposed to the other two) has been totally screwed up by our separation. He is an anxious, extremely people-oriented dog to begin with (German Shepherd/Golden Retriever mix). But now I don't even know what to do with him. He has become neurotic about staying on the stairs/near the bedrooms. We can't get him to go outside to go to the bathroom once it's dark and he has been peeing in the house. He can't handle the fact that we don't sleep in the same room. He cries all night, opens doors trying to go in between and refuses to leave my W's room until she comes out with him and locks him back in with me. At bedtime, he goes in there and is visibly devastated when she tells him to go and he realizes she isn't coming. Even she acknowledges it's the saddest thing ever. I can't even imagine if we had kids. My heart goes out to all you guys in that situation.