It's great to see you willing to work on yourself, plus you know what to change.
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I am on a mission to just stop talking about anything and prove any point I need to make with actions (especially during DB).
At first, I thought you meant to completely stop talking. Finding balanced seems to be difficult for a lot of people......but I see what you are saying.
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Do you think something like, "Sorry, I'm in the middle of something. Do you mind getting You'll have to get it yourself" is appropriate? The strikethroughs are me attempting to correct my instinctive response if I were to tell her no. You are very right about my biggest struggle being the balance between strong and confident vs jerk.
Yes, your example is great. Just so long as you understand you don't have to give an excuse for not running to do whatever she said. Just saying a flat "no" can sound rude, and we humans feel we have to add something with it. It sounds as if you may have spoiled her, being as accommodating as you are. So, she may be persistent. You will have to be resolved to break the habit.
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Thank you so much, Sandi. Your insights and suggestions are incredibly helpful and I really appreciate the time you took to write it all out.
You are very welcome. I encourage you to set goals to help yourself improve in these areas.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
