WW moved out. Whirlwind of emotions

[reframe]

My coach always seems to suggest a slightly softer approach. His point is that anything giving the appearance of being punitive will engender resentment and defensiveness on the part of the other person, and "he's never seen that work".

He'd probably suggest something like:
"you know, I've never been here before. My #1 goal right now is to work on myself, and be the best version of myself I can be. I'm not quite ready to hang out, and I need to be true to myself and maintain my self respect".

reframe, I am running into a similar sitch. My WW is letting the OM coach and manipulate how she is dealing with me and the settlement of our D. Want to be strong but not too, but also don't want to come off as weak. Been there too long.

How did your coach suggest you handle those sitch? I could not afford to keep using a coach so I am doing this on my own. It is so hard, especially when you are dealing with NGS also.