Some of them vanish for periods of time and then show back up...still strong in MLC. There are a few around who have had their spouses go off and disappear for weeks at a time. Some stay in the picture and others come back periodically.
Lou's h comes to mind as being someone who disappears and then contacts her once in a blue moon.
What your spouse is doing may be the right thing for him while he's in crisis. It just may be his way of dealing w/himself and his issues.
I wanted to bring over something that I wrote a few years ago:
There are three types of mlcers:
1. Drop-in. This is the mlcer that continues to come to the home, most likely on a daily basis or every couple of days. They have dinner, sit around w/the children and just visit like old times.
2. Droplet. This is the mlcer who comes to home or visits w/you periodically. They may come by every couple of weeks or months. They don't make a habit of being at your residence all of the time like drop-in does.
3. Dropout. This is the mlcer who walks out the door and you never hear from him or see him again for a very, very long time. No contact at all. They ride off into the sunset never to be seen or heard from again by you or family.
The three descriptions were best described by Sally Conway in her book that she wrote many years ago. The descriptions helped me determine which one my h was. For a while, he was the droplet and then evolved into the dropout.
