sandi, this is great insight. I think most wives would have handled it by coming back to the table and saying, "Hey those are the guys that were with "Keanu Reeves" last time. We should go over there and tell them that we think their friend looks like KR!" As you said, putting the added weight of their current problems, I would think HJ's wife would be even more sensitive in that regard.
However, I do wonder if alcohol might be part of the problem. We all know our inhibitions and judgment is affected by alcohol. I have a friend whose first wife turned into a huge flirt (I will refrain from stronger language, but it went beyond flirting to making out and worse) when she started drinking. Also remember one time years ago I was at a place with a friend and his GF (now wife). She was pretty drunk and started dirty dancing in front of me and grabbed my hands and put them on her waist. (I was neither drinking nor dancing.) I remember him telling me that turned into a huge argument. I can tell you that she would never have done without the alcohol.
Personally one of my boundaries would be no more drinking. But admittedly, in our society, that isn't going to be a popular opinion.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
