Making coffee and something has just dawned on me. It came from a passing comment the wonderful man I'm with made last night (we were having another conversation entirely).
Being an adult is about accepting responsibility.
I had accepted responsibility for other people a long time ago. But I hadn't ever accepted it for myself.
Not to the extent I had accepted it for other people.
It doesn't really matter the reasons why (although I kinda know why). It's where I ended up.
So my journey has been (and is) about redressing the balance and accepting responsibility for myself.
That's deep! I like it. I agree that adulthood is mostly about accepting responsibility. I think far too often, we fall in the trap of wanting it to be someone else's fault. I think that is one powerful lesson I learned from my D because my XH wanted ALL the blame to reside solely with me. Uh no.....I was willing to take my share, but not willing to take all of it. So, I've been very consciously working toward making sure I always take responsibility for me in the past few years. It's a very powerful thing.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
