Some ASSuming here, trying to put myself in CHL's place a bit to try to figure why he isn't trying to work on settlement.

ASSumptions:

He knows I would still like to save the marriage.

He is pretty sure discussing the settlement will upset me so he is putting off doing that till the last possible moment.

He is doing major conflict avoidance?

Pam

"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned
so as to have the life that is waiting for us"