Longnecks and trainwrecks

[Tofbrks]

As I journey through my re-adaptation into single dad-dom, I think
I have found myself more cognizant of life and people's actions/thoughts.

A little background refresher, my ex decided to bail on 15yr marriage without as much as a "hey I'm dissatisfied with x and x ". No work to try to salvage anything other than her reputation. I'm not ignorant and know good marriages don't "fail" and know I'm responsible for my share of issues. Upon leaving I was given a laundry list of "issues" that caused her departure. The key phrase being ilybinilwy. I just didn't make her "happy" anymore. Never once did she mention any blame of her own, it was placed solely on my shoulders.


Fast forward through the manditory wait for divorce to be "official"... and two days later she was engaged... 5 mo later she's getting married... again

Ex is getting married to the "om" in our situation. It as a carefully orchestrated plan, just unsure of who was the meistro. He was fresh off a sep from his wife of 18 yrs, but the planning and participation in a EA was well in front of the sep. Neither one (ex and om) have done any exploration as to why their marriages failed or accepted any responsibility in it. To them they deserved to be "happy" and knew current spouses did not do it. In this new relationship, ex is often "pleased" by purchases which feed her "happiness"... as do her social media diarrhea of pictures with their associated pats on the back and "likes"...


All this backstory to ask the question, has anybody been through something similar?
See the pattern somebody acted in and repeating it right before your eyes..?
I wouldn't give two rats bungholes about any of this but there are kids involved. So I have to concern myself with the potential for fallout... or I think I wouldn't be a very good parent.