I know. I... I'm just really grossed out by how it happened.
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1) How can you protect yourself financially. Whether that means divorce or not, Im not sure. But I would discuss with a knowledgeable attorney and make sure that you can survive the financial fallout.
I am working very hard on that right now.
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Originally Posted By: Olya
Oh, I have my faults enough! I can be demanding, short-tempered, OCD about certain things, emotional and needy, and I have this ingrained need to fix things. I never hid these things from him - he knew who I was when he married me. And I was willing to do better. I wanted us to work on the relationship.
What are you doing about these things? These sound like a great place to start when you look at your side of the street. How can you improve these areas for your next R, whoever it is with?
Honestly? I will never again start a relationship with someone I have to take care of. I shifted a lot of burden over the household onto myself. All he ever had to do was go to work. I moved us. I took care of finances. I took on jobs I hated to help offset his out of control spending. I sunk my student loan disbursements into paying off his credit card debt.
I will simply never involve myself with someone like him again. I want a relationship where I am taken care of and appreciated. I will never again put myself in a position where I bend over backwards for someone and then beg for their affection.
I have become someone I never planned to be and it is due in large part to my family dynamic. I will not be repeating it.
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Oh....and you can also look up Affair Down. It isnt as uncommon as youd think.Its definitely about him...not you.
