No affair, no feelings...is there hope?

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I think Olya used the wrong word there. I think what she meant was that you seem to be bending over into a pretzel over and over to appease your W. Why are you continuing to do that?

Well, it's certainly not out of desire to. The specific instance she was referencing (W frustrated with me for leaving a mess on the patio), I'm not sure that I was appeasing her. She was right, I left the mess, and that's what I told her. It wasn't a long discussion and I cleaned it up and that was that.

In general, though, I'm not denying the pretzeling is happening. Why? I guess old habits die hard and I need to keep working on detaching. The fear that I will upset her and compulsion to please her are still too strong.