Wow, I guess it's comforting to know that is very normal. Funny how it's almost an exact quote.
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It is a phase. Either she will move on to OM2 (mine was headed that way), or she will finally wake up to her actions and want to work on the MR. Note, this is not an overnight change. My wife struggled with it for weeks. Some struggle with it for months or even years.
When she is ready to work on the R, MC might be able to help. You should be in IC regardless.
Thank you, this is somewhat hopeful. I'm pretty sure my W has been in this phase before. She goes into her speeches about wanting to live on the island and then comes out of it. Before, however, there has never been an OM involved. What's worrisome for me is why she can't break out of the phase permanently. Maybe, like you said, some people just struggle with it for a long time and the phases I see are just mini-cycles of one big phase. My feeling is that when she does break out of it, we aren't doing the right things to fix the problem. Hopefully, if the chance comes, I will know what to do this time and we can get proper counseling.
I credit our counselor for breaking the cycle. If she is willing, get into MC. Like I said, you should be in IC anyway.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
