Im sorry for the turn that things have taken. It $ucks, no bones about it. I would do what you can to take the focus off of him and what he is doing, because, frankly, it doesnt really matter right now. Whatever relationship you had with him is dead. So theres no reason to focus on whether or not you would want to recon right now. He's off on his journey now. Let him take it. If your paths come together in the future, you can make your assessment then.
I would recommend you really focus in two places:
1) How can you protect yourself financially. Whether that means divorce or not, Im not sure. But I would discuss with a knowledgeable attorney and make sure that you can survive the financial fallout.
2)
Originally Posted By: Olya
Oh, I have my faults enough! I can be demanding, short-tempered, OCD about certain things, emotional and needy, and I have this ingrained need to fix things. I never hid these things from him - he knew who I was when he married me. And I was willing to do better. I wanted us to work on the relationship.
What are you doing about these things? These sound like a great place to start when you look at your side of the street. How can you improve these areas for your next R, whoever it is with?
Oh....and you can also look up Affair Down. It isnt as uncommon as youd think.Its definitely about him...not you.
