Things moving fast. Twists & turns.(hoosjim's 15th

[hoosjim]

Obviously, the stranger who put his hand her shoulder must have read something there for him to feel it was okay. It should have been a red flag to your W, the second he placed his hand on her.

Yeah, this will be one of the MC session issues we bring up. I imagine it will be a topic of convo in her IC session, as well. As to "Why" she does it, i have no clue. Don't think they "Why" particularly matters to me, anyway, unless it has to do with some neglect on my part which clearly isn't the case right now. The "Why" Seems like more a question for the Counselor. I suppose DonH could be on to something about her needing the constant validation... that would be consistent with what W and MC have explored in IC about W's rejection-filled past. Whatever it is, it is not a new behavior pattern for her, and certainly far predates her "WW" phase. Definitely more of a concern now, though, that she is in the recovery phase from that syndrome.

Nothing really additional to report right now. Tough weekend with multiple "troubled child" issues, and some financial concerns raising their ugly heads, but we managed to keep it "light" on the MR front at least for a little bit last night. We did not get to get to our weekly exercises of working through the post-affair recovery stuff. Just too much going on. Goiing to try to regroup with that tomorrow or Tuesday. It has, however, taken on added importance in my mind given some of the "slips" she's had recently. I had been inclined to sort of breeze through it, but i now think it is going to be more important to really dig in and explore some of this stuff.

Next counseling sessions are Wednesday. Will advise if anything juicy comes up.

FWIW, i continue to have faith that this is the time it works out for us. I think she has thrown in enough--and at least for right now i think she (W) at least believes she is fully committed to me and the MR-- that as long as I and MC don't let up on her we will make it through to the other side. There's just something different about her this time.