Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting

[KutieKat]

but maybe you could view it as a stepping stone to a better life?

[psluke]

Maybe, I'm still pretty confused right now.

[psluke]

Had a thought on perceptions and filters this morning.

One of the posters on Betsey's thread thought KK's post sounded angry. I was surprised to read that as I hadn't sensed any anger in her post, but thought it was a good post.

But the more I thought about it, I realized how easy it is to take things through your filter and let your perceptions influence your thinking.

I don't know if that made any sense and not really going anywhere with it.

It was one of those morning bath thoughts.

[imalright]

Morning, Pam!

LMAO! Well, hon, I do believe you have hit on something! Too many times WE all hit on filtering the wrong things. I know I've done it also!

[Livnlearn]

Good Morning Pam!

Yes, you are right, the way WE are feeling at the moment makes ALL the difference to how we perceive things. Have you ever noticed that when we feel on top of the world about something, we feel we want to hug the world, and even forgive our enemies in a general amnesty???

For an example of that, just go to Bold'n'Beautiful's thread and see her last post. Now that her H wants to return to her, she is feeling sorry for OW and wants to write her a letter!

Livnlearn

[love_endures4ever]

Mornin' Pam,

You know I was reading through that thread yesterday (Betsey's), I thought maybe I should be quitting my efforts and moving on..that things were hopeless anyway so why was I bothering to make my M/R work?

But not feeling that way this morning, thank goodness.

I hope you have a good day!

Cathy

[psluke]

Hey Cathy,

I'm glad you don't feel that way today!!

I think the mood we are in very diffinitely affects our perception of what we hear and read and even how we interact with people.

I just didn't realize how very much. But LNL made a really good point about how you feel affecting how you act!

[psluke]

Hi Deb,

Yes, I just don't think I had ever thought about we all do it.

For example I don't believe I ever thought CHL would do that, because I always looked at him as so logical. But he does have emotions and they do have to affect his thinking to some extent!

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Good Morning Pam!

I wanted to tell you that moving home during my separation from my husband was the best thing I could have done.

It gave me a chance to heal my relationship with my parents. And that is simply priceless.

I never imagined our relationship would be as good as it is now.

Just some food for thought, while you consider moving back home.

Hugs!

[sage]

Morning Pam,

I wanted to let you know how much your early post to me yesterday meant to me. I'm thrilled to know that I have been helpful in some way. And you, my dear, have returned the favor in spades!

I'm loving the posts you've been making over the last few days...can you SEE all of the wonderful work that you are doing????

Sage