I had almost this exact sitch, the G had several OW, nine to be precise most of the POWS (EAs) not PAs but it culminated in OW9, an ex exotic dancer from Bratislava living in Italy, who he met golfing in our holiday flat in Madeira and they met up on 'neutral' territory at the Art Hotel in Amsterdam paid for with joint marital funds. The longer it went on the more surreal it got.
Really?
He would not leave, it was too cushy. I didn't have kids and stopped feeding him cake. Still the sod wouldn't go. Even with everything I did, he would not go. I moved out of the house I had owned for 30 years just to get peace. In the end I just truth darted so it resulted in a grand finale. I did not know what to do. You can't physically evict them and you have to D. It's the only way.
So so frustrating and I so empathise. And whilst the tussle goes on its hard (almost impossible to detatch). The best you can hope for is anger and disgust. Husband is in the OW has a special place between her legs dream of ever after knickers off. I get the hatred too, but that will ease if you convert to disgust as your prime emotion.
Delusional rubbish from which he stands no chance of awakening at all until reality bites.
See an L and keep your cards close to your chest. It's the only way to get him out, he will have to pay for his choices, make him. Kick his entitled butt head out of his arse. Don't do as I did, dance around someone who is damaging you and your kids. If you want your M then I think tough stuff is in order.
OW is priceless isn't she? There can't be a work it through in an EA not until the wick is dipped. And the longer the EA goes on the less likely. It's lurve bombing by OW for jollies and luca. For sure. Make sure you get what you need before open crotch gets her cut. Her cut comes out of his portion. I left it far too long before I took real action.
So far it doesn't look like WH has done the nasty so it might be you can wake him up. I sense though you are in the land of fed up, let go, reality bites.
So my thoughts are to see an L, interview several chose one you can work with and then act on that advice. WH has scrambled eggs for brains with a side dish of special sausage.
Detach as much as you can and thus be able to listen to L advice.
I always have hope when I see no PA, very little when there is active infidelity. So I think it's your heart decision of what's best for you.
It's tough on you.
Hugs
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
