This used to be easier - and a lot more fun, cont.

[25yearsmlc]

I need to read back over this thread to see where you are headed and THEN i'll address the cruise issue(s).

Last weekend I helped out at the family cidery/distillery. Where I was, only hard cider is served. Someone arrived already on something (there are wineries nearby, too) and 911 had to be called for her unresponsiveness. Pretty scary and there was a lesbian police officer who asked me out.

Hmm, I decided it was flattering.

Because otherwise it's going to make me feel like 1) I'm not looking as feminine as I feel

or that 2) simply not wearing a wedding ring means I MUST want to date someone...anyone...

Don, Maybe you need to wear more manly cologne, (or sweat and smell more) or talk about steaks and cars, & tell people you hate decorating??

I'm temped at first to say brilliant! Why didn't I think of that? But it is pretty obvious and I should have seen it myself. So perhaps brilliant observation of the obvious? Thinking back I've had so many people knee jerk with something like so and so is single. As if that's the only criteria!

God, I hope not. I set up an online profile and said "No thanks" to atheists, workaholics, smokers, and people closer in age to my kids than to me.

Guess I'm picky! But I am dating a nice guy, and seems like he's my bf. I say "seems" b/c we have no exclusivity arrangement as we have both come out of long marriages.

But we do hang out quite a lot. It's a calm R, and mostly drama free.

A LOT of communication happens that is needed b/c we don't have the decades of history x and I did.

I miss the shared history I had with x. So much, at times it hurts. I have had dreams of him that made me miss him.

Then I had to b1tchslap myself with reality and remind myself "yes, x was really funny and handsome and blah blah blah

AND ALSO he became really mean and was dishonest for SO LONG..." And it's all pretty crazy, when I think about it honestly.

You are not in crazy land Don. But what do YOU think is holding you back from dating more?


To be honest, I've not given a lot more thought to the cruise. Mostly because it's still 9 plus months away. Friends brought it up again last night. I think I've already laid out the dilemmas here - mostly married friends or in an R. After the gay question, I'm not taking a guy. Lol. But even a friend like you G - then what happens if you start dating someone in October or November? What will he think of his GF sharing a cabin with a guy?


She tells him on their 3rd date that oh btw, she's going on a cruise in the fall...and is sharing a cabin with a friend.

...Oh, & the friend is "an older man" (Don, if you are 2 days older than me, you're "an older man" so don't be offended. It's to lower the resistance of the new BF that G doesn't have yet, ).
the sooner it gets put out there, the less complaining is allowed.

And we are sort of borrowing a problem, aren't we??






And honestly even with friends I'd feel bad if by some chance I met someone on board and kinda left them. That would not be nice. Put yourself in that sitch, while you might be happy for me you'd have to feel left out. I know I would so I'd hate to do that to anyone.

does this^^^ happen that often? Geez, I have been on cruises but I guess always with family or my mom. Still, do people HOOK UP "for real" on cruises so that this "problem" is a realistic obstacle?


It really is more complicated


but...is it?