I don't think Amoawfl is telling to take the blame for your W A. You are being told, that will have to move pass her A to start recon. You will have to forgive and own your part in the downfall of your M. If you do that you can see that your W A is part of the problem and not the whole problem.

Even if your W end the A, she will never come back to the old Along. So fixing your side is just as important as your W owning up to her faults.

M:37 W:37
T:11 M:10
S17, S13, S10, S4
BD:06/28/17
OM confirmed 07/20/17
Recon the M 10/29/17
Working hard:2gether

Onward and forward

This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.