There actually seems to be no evidence of an A. It almost seems like WH is depressed.

No outward wayward stuff, guy activities such as guns. And snoring which perhaps leads to sleep apnoea and deprivation.

Seems to me he is a walkaway with some sort of depression.

Walkaways are a completely different sitch to waywards.

Sandi 37 rules are great for repairing an R with a walkaway. These are the R that result in new renewed M. DB is great for that.

The sex starved thing is a tough one to overcome, have you been assessed on your hormonal levels etc? Might be worth looking into. Intimacy is very tough to rebuild but not impossible.

H was once very attracted to you, he M with you for 20 years so we know it was there once. So you get your vacation value vroom back for you. That's vital rework you for you. Then you will be the winner.

For the moment until you think or know otherwise treat H as a walkaway and DB. Those are my thoughts.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW