I know how you feel Jase. My W had her EA with a coworker and it is hard for me to accept that it wasn't physical, although I have no reasoning or proof that it was more. For me I think that reading these boards about what other MLCers do has made me less naïve but maybe a little more paranoid. Like, if everyone has a PA and lies about it, and all her other behavior is straight out of the MLC playbook, then why wouldn't she do it and then lie. I feel like that feeling is justified, but maybe not always warranted.
The social media thing is weird. My W makes no mention of me on social media and posts stuff of her and the kids. Even with events I was at...or maybe I took the picture. It bothered me enough to pretty much stop using social media to keep my sanity. I finally stopped caring about that and just look at it as one more sign that she is still deep in it, despite the conversations we have about working things out. I suggest trying not to put too much stock in it. Its par for the course in MLC land.
Rebuilding trust is a hard thing. In my opinion, I don't know if I would push for a polygraph. Others may disagree, but I know my W would not respond well to that. If she says she didn't and you don't have any evidence to the contrary, you might try to accept that as truth for now. Just my 2 cents.
I agree...this is hard. The hardest thing I've ever endured. We're here for you...vent all you need.
