Thank you for your response and tips. I will check the links you suggested. I don't know what else I can do. I have read many many books including Michele's. I am not at a point in my life that I feel more hatred towards my husband than love. at this point, I love myself than whatever I feel for my husband.
I am tempted to the the 180 and last resort. Kick him out and let him live his fantasy with this other woman.