Thank you for your response and tips.
I will check the links you suggested.
I don't know what else I can do.
I have read many many books including Michele's.
I am not at a point in my life that I feel more hatred towards my husband than love.
at this point, I love myself than whatever I feel for my husband.

I am tempted to the the 180 and last resort.
Kick him out and let him live his fantasy with this other woman.

Any thoughts?