Maybe Things are settling?

[Ggrass]

So a couple of things but life is just so peaceful as a rule.

Reading the above post, shows me sometimes I'm more insightful than I feel at most hard points in relationships not just romantic ones. I've had to stand up a few times setting boundaries recently, most just in interactions that aren't romantic.

It is making me shake my head the number of people who try to threaten and push by calling you names or using labels designed to gain the upper hand. To make you behave in a certain way to gain advantage it's just seen as a normal and to a lessor degree I would have seen it as normal before. Now days it makes me just step back more,

Mutual friends of xh2 keep trying to bring info now of all times. Mostly of how well $ wise the xh2 and ow are doing how they are building a huge Mc mansion in a coastal location big $ to buy land and big $ to Bulid. How wonderfull the ow is and just to try and re write my version even tho they didn't live it...

Or how ss is so well off now he's bought land in an expensive location, I just don't wish them harm but just don't want to be in that triangle.

Thank goodness I haven't had to even remotely see or deal with either xh2 or ow. I did however cross his path, first time in ages. Think cars passing in the night...
which in some respect just made me laugh, there is no more fear or even sadness. I still feel same way that who could not just feel sorry for the mental health mess that is xh2 mind.

I've delt with a sort of bully at work, but it's not working because part of bulling is they don't listen and react to your setting of boundaries. The fact I've set them however regardless of how the bully acts makes me feel better. These days I can accept that the onus is on the bully who thinks they are helpful, to change and that may never happen.

And tbh I'm really ok with that when u wouldn't have been in the past, it would have festered. Now days I say it then I'm done.

Me thinks that's a

Huge victory for me right there.

I feel looking back I'm getting better, at deal with my side, I don't allow that being drawn in. Well sometimes I fail others tho I'm capable of stepping away.

The wonky lamb has returned and has been living under the clothes line, that will make v laugh. He's now decided he's dog again since his sheep mates have moved on. New ones willl move in soon, but for now he's driving me spare leaving sheep marbles to step in while hanging up the washing.

And we've had a cold snap so this week the whole winter prep starts. Wood for fires and hay for horses.

I have decided I really like peace and normal.