LBW, H in MLC and with OW - part 3

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OK my analysis and how I reached the thoughts I did.

If you want me to stop posting to you Meg, I will. OK?

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Journaling.....

I feel like I'm in a much better place today, compared to earlier this week.

That's great.

H sent me a text late last night.

Why late at night? It's classic tactic to keep you tired, stop you sleeping, weaken your defences.

I was still awake, but didn't response (yay for me!).

Next time just delete.


Basically said he has lot of sh*& going on in his head

it's the nappy commercial, it leaked into the scrambled eggs he has for brains.

and can't make sense of it. Said he's been lashing out at me and treating me like sh%&, and he feels like crap after every time he calms down. Said he's taking his problems and confusion out on me and I don't deserve it and he's sorry.

Then he needs to stop.

I replied when I got to work this morning,

I think don't reply.

said I'm sorry for the pain he has,

OK validation, but he did this to himself.

and that I understand that he feels leaving was what he needed to do to sort everything out.

No he wanted to keep dipping his schlonger, weinering and hoping you would be Mrs Weiner take him back or even better force feed him cake in the 'pick me' game.

He replied later that part of his struggle is the kids don't want him anymore, they've made it clear they chose me. He said he sent them each a text yesterday and none have responded.

Yes, the state of 'neh' and I suggest you join them there. And notice the blame game and the sorry for myself stuff, they have picked you? No, they have mearly gone 'neh' on him.

Said he'll stay out of our lives so he's not a burden,

Ahhhhhhh, poor olde abused WH out in the cold.

that's what he feels like and he feels like all he's good for is a paycheck,

oh more blame and pity me, plus a slight underlying threat?


and he said he knows that's not how I feel,

What?....

but the kids make him feel like that.

So your kids are respousible for his feelings? That is some strange LOGIC.

I replied that they are confused and hurting just like us, they don't know details and only react to what the see and experience.

STOP! It's his behaviour that caused this, your kids aren't confused at all.

I told him he can't use the kids' feelings as an excuse to not work on the M.

He only wants cake, from you and cupcake from them.

I told him that as far as his relationships with them, HE has to repair those, I can't do it for him, and to keep trying.

No, honey please. Trying is a Weasel word, when he starts in earnest to work on himself then he should reach out.

I then proceeded on another 180, told him that if HE doesn't try to repair things with his kids they will end up feeling about him the same way H feels about his dad, and I know he doesn't want that. He has said for years he doesn't want to be like his dad, when for years he has done so many things like his dad. I haven't spoken up about that until now. He seemed to take it well.


I can't see that as a 180, it's more variety of the same. And emotional blackmail. A 180 would be 'it's up to you, I am no longer getting into this and will not respond on your R with the kids anymore'.


H said then that he thought that at least I should sit all the kids down and own up to my part in our R where it's at.

WTF? It's your fault that he is a cheater and treats the kids badly? That he is a Weiner?

I told him that I have,

180, stop and support your kids in their state of Neh. Nah is a great response to his pretence and I think support it. Nah is the appropriate passport requirement in the State of Neh. Go be a citizen of Neh too.

many times, and continue to try to teach them to do things differently in their current and future relationships.


He said that's all he can ask.

Until the next nappy commercial.

V