Outstanding advice, yet again. Ideally I just want something more concrete in terms of ammunition for the next conversation as I've already had the "I know" one. Don't worry it will happen as the feelings of utter disgust are certainly rising now and sometimes I find it hard to even look her in the eye. Even if the hotel map "clue" is a red herring and is indeed a coincidence (would have been better to have all map info for that day) it doesn't really matter anyway.

Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains