I had no idea what a MLC was until now...

[JaseP]

Thank you all for the replies, you're all very sharp and insightful. It's so appreciated.

I'm not sure if she's in full-blown MLC or not, but I'm also not trying to be naive. She definitely became gym obsessed and bought all new fancy clothes in her new skinny size. She's done this before too though as her weight has fluctuated over the years. She also acts more "single" on social media. She posted something ridiculous a couple weeks ago after we had been on what i thought was a great date night. We'd been to a fancy restaurant and then to a friend's nightclub for a hip hop show. We had a great time with friends.
She then came home that night and posted some silly hotel lobby photo and captioned it "got the blues (cry emoji) so what's a girl to do? Put on a slinky red dress and go dancing!" Nothing about me or our date, and we were never even dancing, by the way...she sees this as silly and inconsequential, but there have been other instances of her vaguely posting things suggesting she (we) have personal problems. Isn't this stuff inappropriate to share with her several thousand followers??

Anyway, since she came clean about her "fantasy/escape" life and her crush/obsession with her new boss she's really behaving differently and I'm reluctantly believing she's sincere and that this is all for the better. But what if I'm setting myself up for a big fall? Tonight I'm going to suggest she takes a polygraph soon. Maybe give her one last chance to tell me all so I can know exactly what I'm forgiving and we can then attempt to rebuild.

She swears up and down absolutely nothing physical happened, but how can I be sure? The trust is all broken now. I saw on her phone that OM rarely texted her back and that there were very few phone calls over the weeks. I also know that when they were working together lots of other people were around them. She also was usually good about face timing me and the kids each night where I could see she was at her hotel getting ready for bed.

It's a fact that she's in a high-powered, insanely stresssful position at work and that this "crush" of hers is even more busy, running several companies, surrounded by people too. I'm not saying the opportunity didn't ever present itself for them to be physical, and I know that she at least had the willingness too, but I also know this guy is insanely private and paranoid about anything even remotely scandalous happening within his businesses. She claims what stirred up so much emotion is that he was so blown away by her work contributions, constantly praising her, not to mention she said she knew he was attracted to her too as she caught him checking her out a few times. Sickening stuff to be sure...

Ugh, this is so hard...thanks for listening.