I hate to say this, but up until a few days ago, I was in your shoes, saying that there is no affair. Little did I know!
I am not saying that he is having an affair, but you need to keep your eyes open and you need to consider that this is a possibility. Have you thought about what you will do if he does have an affair?
In the meantime, while you have no proof, I suggest that if intimacy happens between the two of you at some point, you should seriously consider condoms.
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I'm no expert, but I will say this: you shouldn't be cold, but you are right to have stopped crying.
Be cheerful. Be upbeat. Be happy. Happiness comes from within. Do not let him influence your mood. Minimize contact with him, but always be happy when he talks to you. NOT the "I'm glad you're talking to me" kind of happy. Rather, "I'm having a great day and I'm sharing this joy with the world" kind of happy.
But do not cry. Crying may bring about a momentary pang of guilt, but it will drive him away in the long run. People in MLC are incapable of sustained selfless emotional response - it is all about them and your tears soon become inconvenient and then they will begin inducing anger. So, I think you're right to have stopped crying around him.
Work on GAL. It doesn't have to be extremely social. Do a mix of individual and social tasks. Or, depending on where you are in life, apply single-minded focus to something you have been striving for. Your life is no longer about him. It is now about you - what you need and what you want.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
