Thank you all. Artista I have always taken on board your great advice but on this occasion I really want to hold back until first communion as there is family coming to stay etc. I have had no problem with confronting previously. I see analogies with your own sitch in that she wants both setups. She said last year he would not be leaving his wife (he has a lot to lose including a ginormous house). Unless there is some sort of dastardly plan in place I also refer back to our first confrontation when she said she would never leave me. Any views on the "practicalities" of my sitch?
she has not had her great awakening... her scared to death of losing you moment... i understand that you have company coming and all, but she gets to continue pretending that everything is great... people admire the "closeness" of the two of you... she could go on like that forever... i believe your marriage could be saved if you would take a strong stand against her gall... let's see... she got to celebrate her 20th Wedding Anniversary, she gets to bring home a birthday card with everyone's signature including OM... she gets to host a lovely First Communion Celebration as though all is well... imagine that! a First Holy Communion Celebration while in the throes of adultery... she is shameless... no--she has NO SHAME!... she gets to do all the nice wifey, mommy stuff while meeting OM for a romp in the sheets at a hotel--lingerie and all... btw, i am surprised you haven't found 6-inch heels...
and so long as you don't make a fuss, she's got it good... OM has it good...
i'm sorry, CW... you remind me so much of my H... so when you are ready to make your move, i will be here...
