Hi Rose, Yes, I am employed full time, with a secure job. In fact, my husband and my incomes are fairly comparable.
I will continue to dig deeper. I know he has commented that I rarely showed affection in the past, but this is similar to the sex-starved piece. Also that I did not want to go out as much as he did, as he is very social.
In my first attempts, I set up numerous couple dates for us, which went ok. I also made plans with friends on my own.
Also, he actually seemed more responsive when I was teary in our initial conversations.
Now that he is so shut off from me, I don't feel that I can set up any dates. I have been acting similarly cold to him at times, even though I am trying to stay positive and upbeat. It is so incredibly difficult!! I don't want to do a 180 showing only weakness; it might just not be in my nature, and it seems to go against Michelle's advice. I may have initiated aspects of the Last Resort Technique prematurely.
I will keep trying to delve into myself some more. I have reached out to a therapist, but have not yet had any meetings.
