Thanks again, Steve! It is so incredibly helpful writing about this and getting feedback.
I will revisit the posts about detachment and will certainly research differentiation in marriage. I have never heard of it. I know I have exhausted all reading material on the internet about MLC and "how to save your marriage if you are the only one who wants to."
I had never thought of myself being too codependent. My fears stem from my fear of a divorce from my husband and the subsequent fall out from that... change in family unit, possible change of home, lifestyle, etc.
