from sandi2: I also think a big part of it was emotional reaction in trying to secure her situation.
this is what i have been saying all along... all her "doing the right things, hitting rock bottom" was her reacting to hoosjim walking out on her... her goal was to get him back home, and to get him to stay... she did that with her long letter, her crying in her room saying all the right things as if someone were listening in on her... running to MC and making appointments for IC... when MC and hoosjim started laying out the boundaries, W wrinkled her nose at the BFF boundary... MC reminded her that she said she was willing to make certain sacrifices to get hoosjim back to work on the marriage... remember one of her text messages to hoosjim said, "i can fix this." this is what she meant... she can smooth things over... and now that things are "smoothed over," she is ready to go back to her wayward-heart attitude...
hoosjim must follow through on his boundaries... she is belittling the pain she caused by not respecting his boundaries... she needs to be reminded that he did not need to come back and that the hoosjim that gave her the benefit of the doubt while she was still wayward is no longer... he is now the hoosjim who jumped into that Uber because he was through with all the bull$h1+...
at this point, with her heart still not changed, with her trying to still process things "her way," i give her no credit... unless she comes to accept that those boundaries are non-negotiable, she is doing what she did before: appearing to be working on the marriage... hoosjim and CW both have WW that i believe i can see right through...
that she is trying to get hoosjim to acquiesce on the boundaries says that she DOES NOT RESPECT HIM... he needs to nip this in the bud... NOW... seriously, i want to shake some reality into that girl!
