State18, if you take doodler's approach, don't do it sad, whiny and in a poor me way. Be firm and stern, on the verge of angry, but always in control. Do it from a position of strength, no pleading or begging.

Your assertiveness will cause her to be taken back. You've probably been a bit of a worm since BD. Overly accommodating. Extremely nice and well-behaved. Your sternness will really surprise her and make her feel less bold to stand up to the decision.

I'll pray that if you choose this route it goes well. As doodler said she may, after her initial shock at your assertiveness, come back and put up a protest. Just stand your ground. "If you go we all go."

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018