She says she is staying at her brother's house, but may also stay with her parents in a hotel.
I can't help but be totally suspicious. The other man is about a 2 hour drive from where my wife is traveling.
State18,
She's full of sh*t.
The way I'd handle it is I'd tell her that the whole family is going and all of you will stay in a hotel room. If any of the children are still potentially contagious, then maybe the grandparents can sit with them while you and your wife visit the newborn.
Your wife will complain bitterly, but just stand your ground; insist on being there for the special family event. You wife will be p*ssed and b*tch and moan.
My approach is probably not DB, but I don't like the idea of allowing a cheater to cheat right under your nose. Would a Clint Eastwood movie character knowingly allow his wife to go off with another man on what should a family event? Oh h3ll no.