Great, great points here guys. Thank you. Yes, I thought maybe it was just coincidence that she happened to text me (after years) the very next day after I notified friends and family on FB that I moved out of Mary's house. However many friends I've spoken to said no way...it was no coincidence. Also when she told me to bring my girlfriend with me...that was another rather strange thing. But I feel strong now where the worst that could happen is my life stays as it is...which obviously I am used to. So I feel braver in that respect. It's just funny how all this played out...how Mary and I broke up before I ever in a million years expected to hear from WAW, how we are both single now...it just happened that way on its own. Maybe I'll send a funny text related to something that "reminded" me of her later...like I heard a song or something she liked.

Thanks for the advice guys...once I get to a normal computer and not using data on my phone i want to read some of the newbies posts and help them from my experience. I feel like I can help them through those terrible first few weeks/months after the bomb drop. Right now I am still getting settled in my new place and don't have cable and internet yet. Thanks everyone, looking forward to what others have to say here.

ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14