Yes, I certainly see the error of my ways and did immediately once we started having any discussion of how we had grown apart. I told my husband that we had to sleep in the same bed, and that resulted in a temporary return to our sex life.
As I mentioned before, the past few weeks have been so different. He has told me he doesn't want me in the bed, doesn't even think of me in that way anymore. He has grown exceedingly distant and often does not make eye contact with me.
During these past two years, he has also spent more and more time at the local gun club. He is an avid hunter and practice shooter. We discussed the fact that this is a place where I am not welcomed by him. As things have continued to deteriorate, he now spends about 25 hours a week there. He has a group of friends with whom he shoots and drinks. They have been known to spend hours on end there.
As I mentioned, his communication skills are severely lacking. In response to other complaints, there have not been any. Any discussions we have had about our R, have really been just me talking, and him not saying anything. It is infuriating!!
Twice in the past two months, he has left the house. Upon returning from his gun club, he approached me and said he wasn't happy and needed some time alone. The first time it was for one night. The second time it was for two. He has even asked me to leave the house! Please know I am the one keeping the schedules for the children and making sure their lives aren't too disrupted by all of this.
I know swallowing pride is a part of all of this. I have been trying my best. This coming weekend we have a family (my side) wedding out of town. When I asked him about it one last time, he told me he was not going to go. I didn't nag him previously about attending, but brought it up one other time. I told him that I hoped he would attend with me. He said this time, he really did not want to go. This is devastating to my sister and her husband and they see it as a slap in the face that he will not attend. I was pretty sure he was not going to go, and will attend any way with my girls.
