Want to run this by everyone. I have been reading No More Mr. Nice Guy and have been thinking about having a discussion with my W where I tell her that I am angry about this whole thing. That I am angry about how she disrespected me and our marriage. I want to acknowledge that I have been acting like a wimpy little boy instead of being a man and that I think she needs to make other arrangements for the horses and trailer. I feel like if I can do this then I am on my way to getting my balls back. What do you experts on here think about this?
I would say there is a couple of different things going on.
Telling her that you are angry is a waste of your breath. How about the contamination that you brought to the marriage. This isnt a 'her fault' kind of deal. It takes two to make a relationship work, and you putting that blame on her is disowning your share.
Now, with regards to the horses, if there is an issue for you (such as financially or with your time or whatever, then go ahead and discuss it. But I would say that stopping because you 'are angry' is probably a bad idea. Id say there are better places to put your anger.
