Thank you for responding! As crazy as this may sound, in addition to lack of appreciation for normal motherly duties...shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc... what I think made a huge difference was snoring. I know it sounds crazy. Bear with me. In the past 5 years, I lost my mom and dad, had a hysterectomy and a appendectomy. When I really couldn’t sleep, or had surgery, I recovered in the guest room. To my surprise, I finally had a good night sleep! I couldn’t believe it! I didn’t even think it was possible! I started to stay in the guest room more and more often. I bought breathe-rights, which my husband refused to wear. I used to start in the bed together, and then move. Eventually we both went to our rooms. After a while, this made me cry each night! Needless to say, to answer your question, more directly, the sex-starved marriage has probably been going on for nearly 4 years. I started to have no desire other than sleep, and my H said nothing.
I probably don't have to tell you that a married couple sleeping in separate rooms is no way to have intimacy in a marriage. Obviously you can only control you, but I have known many married couples that started sleeping in separate rooms for various reasons (recovery from surgery, snoring, night sweats, back problems) and in all cases those marriage resulted in affairs and/or divorce. You really need to fix that somehow. I know not sleeping is a terrible way to live, but you need to find something that works with the two of you sleeping in the same bed again or your marriage has very little chance of surviving.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
