He has made sure that I have no access to his email. Before the affair, his email and mine were linked. This should not be surprising. So far, he made no effort to disentangle our finances and, in fact, expects me to manage them. I am hoping he is so busy making sure that I never 100% know what he's up to with his social life/affair that he stays away from the financial side.
He says "he'll see" how things go with OW. However, he has already decided to tell his parents that the deployment is 12 months so that I would have no reason to come back to our marital home after he's back from deployment. Like he said a couple of days ago, "It's not your home anymore," and he seems to be sticking with it.
He still expects me to be home this May, which is good. While he makes his plans, I will have time to make mine.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
