Can you elaborate on what you mean by it changing your goals? Are you saying because you are no longer sure you want him back, your goal may not be to recon or are you referring to other life goals in general?
No, you are correct. I don't think that my goal is to get this man back. I think that my goal is to survive this.
The person I want back is a kind and loving individual: gentle, loyal, caring, and often very selfless. He has a child's smile and warm eyes. I don't see any of that in him anymore. His eyes are like steel. He never smiles anymore - not in a genuine way because his eyes always look empty. Even when he laughs, there is no twinkle. It's like he's dead inside. The reason I did not catch that he was talking to OW sooner is because his face doesn't soften when he texts her.
Right now I know that one wrong move and he will blow up at me like a powder keg. My goal when I come back home on the 8th of May is to avoid him like the plague. He cannot be gone soon enough.
I don't want this person back. I want my normal husband back. Unless he snaps out of this and gets help, I don't need him in my life, and his life, I suspect, is about to get all kinds of messed up. I would not trust that woman. No one enters a relationship like this and so fast without an ulterior agenda.
My goal is time. The more time I have, the better off I will be. The more control over our joint life I retain, the safer I will be. Those are my goals.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
