anyway, these little things and sentiments popping up in her make me kind of nervous. Not so much that I worry she's going to drift back to om. I am pretty confident that is over. but I sense a little of the latent rebellious Ness and self-justification still floating around. as well as a bit of an unrealistic desire to just be read all of the unpleasantness without processing it
be nervous... and don't overlook these things... i had a feeling this might happen... this is what happened with me... it was not long before i started hiding things from my H again... i had this same attitude... i didn't go back to OM, but i did revert back to inappropriate behavior and eventually met up with the next OM... but months before that--about two months after H took me back--i was hanging out with gfs (including my GGW BFF) who were also married but who had the same attitude i had... we even did a girls' trip to Santa Monica... not good...
ugh... this is what i mean by holding her feet to the fire... by summer, she will be wanting girls' weekends and such... you have to let her know that this is unacceptable... revisit the boundaries with MC if you must... but point blank ask her "are you able to accept these or not? because my position has not changed in 3 weeks... i will walk if you are not serious about committing to our marriage... 3 weeks later, and you are already backpedaling and that is raising red flags for me..." something a long those lines...
i am hopeful in that you are not making excuses for her... that's progress for you... good!
