I'm not. But this just seems so backwards to me. I feel like if I start pulling away it will come across more like I've reverted to my old behavior --- bad communicator, disinterest in her. That's what drove her away in the first place.
State18,
In the links that Cadet sent you, near the bottom of that post, there's a Pursuit and Distancing link that provides a good overview.
It feels very counter-intuitive, and it's nearly impossible to do well until it's too late. But, consider what your wife is doing; she's distancing herself and you're pursuing. It really works doesn't it?
