My wayward wife and I are still living under the same roof, but sleeping in different beds. We're getting along well, but she seems more distant lately.
Currently, we're supposed to be "trying" to work on our relationship together. That means she isn't supposed to be contacting the other man, she is considering going to therapy, and we're actively reading the Love Date (but she's not necessarily practicing it).
However, her distance along with some shady behavior have me nervous as hell.
Last night we talked about some ideas for what to do with our tax refund. I asked for her ideas --- paying down extra on the credit card. And I offered my ideas -- fixing window shades in our house and a nice night out together. She said she would think about it. Not exactly a rousing endorsement, nor what someone does when they should be "trying" with the relationship.
I'm not sure what to do in this state of our relationship. Since we're "trying", I feel like I should demonstrate what I want to be as a partner, but so much of that goes against the "tough love" I've read about in Sandi's rules.
Do I maybe just keep doing what I've been doing? Provide service while I can and demonstrate my positive changes as much as I'm allowed? Or do I pull back somehow?
